I've just had a two-hour discussion with our new flatmate, the psychology student. She grew up in a settlement near Hebron, in the Westbank. Her parents still live there; they are orthodox Jews.
It was very difficult. Everything I said about the hardship of the Palestinians was answered by a "but...". I tried to make sense of what she said and what I had heard from Palestinians - it's not easy. Both consider themselves victims, and more so than the respective other. The psychology student, for instance, believes if she went to Ramallah or East Jerusalem without soldiers guarding her, she would be killed. The fear is deeply engrained in her - she has lost two friends in terror attacks. At the same time, she says she has Arab friends and colleagues. I told her I know Jewish Israelis who have been to Ramallah and other places under Palestinian control, and that I'd seen orthodox Jews in East Jerusalem without protection of the military service or the police. She was astonished, and I don't think she believed me.
Well, it is a good lesson to talk to those who do not share your viewpoints. It helps you understand your own convictions, and to see nothing here is black and white.